But, is it nothing to know when you are dying, when you are about to take leave of this world, of its joys and sorrows, when the past of your life is unfurled before you, when eternity opens wide its portals, is it nothing to know at that last awful,supreme moment of your lives, that you have not lived in vain, that you have lived for the benefit of others, that you have lived to help in the cause of your country's regeneration?

-Surendranath Banerjea

Monday, March 23, 2009

Excruciating Advices..

In life,everything comes with a cost..
You love someone,they love back..
You help someone,they help back..
You smile at someone,they smile back..
You talk to someone,they talk back..
Everything happens either for a price or for an exchange..

The one and only thing that you get absolutely free of cost and at any goddamn hour is advices..and that's the most excruciating stuff one can ever bear with..

Be that's a family get-together or a community gathering or a public function or a mere visit,the oldies are always excited to give unsolicited tormenting advices to the younger immature ones of the breed.. Be that's about marriage,conduct,eating,sleeping,bathing,shitting,peeing,..they never run short of these gibberish.. And the unwritten code of conduct is,the younger follows the elder.. So there's no other go but to be silent..

The story doesn't end there.. The added agony is the kind of response they have to be presented with.. A smile infused listening would provoke a 'stop smiling and start acting' comment.A smug or smirk implies an 'insolent brat'.. Worse,a retaliating comment would invoke an 'arrogant urchin' remark..

I had always felt like asking them to ply their trade..There are better ways to punish someone than to make them listen to all such crappy blabbers.. But i'm sober enough to know that would lead to a court-marshal.. So i remain a very obedient child in the family..

Khuda Hafiz


Dream'R said...

my my my..some1s in a mood for a rant and a half..!!

real nice read gayathri!!...and its oh so true...u gals get it all the time regarding marriages and for us its abt "wat r u planning on doin with ur life?" is this how u see urself in 5 years time"?..hmmmphh...

was fun ;-)
cheers girl..

Anonymous said...

I stay away from the gathering of old people a.k.a. Iyer Maamies... lot of Maamieism!
And, here, with advises, we are asked questions if u knew how to cook..if u help your mummy..goes on.
With it some show off. Like "Next week we are going to xxx place, IN AC Train" lol! as if no one else travels in AC!
Better is to stay away and act as if u r busy.. it works that BEST!

gayathri said...

lol..that's the next question i get once i say i'm not planning to get married for next 2-3 yrs..so what next,higher stdz?hows preps?which company u r gonna join..oh crap..it's as if everyone else other than me knows better ways of living..
Thanks to drop by.. :)

that's what..marriage,cooking,chores,kolam,singing,are all the common topics here too..it's better to keep shut coz else that would be the lead for another q..